[melcenaryx]

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I’m facing a bit of a dilemma and could really use some advice. I’ve got a rude neighbor situation on my hands, and unfortunately, my HOA doesn’t seem willing to help. Any suggestions on how to handle this?

[melinda_s]

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Oh no, sorry to hear that! Rude neighbors can be such a headache. What exactly is happening, if you don’t mind sharing a bit more detail?

[melcenaryx]

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Well, my neighbor has been consistently rude—loud music late at night, blocking my driveway, and even some not-so-friendly encounters. I’ve tried talking to them, but it doesn’t seem to make a difference. I reached out to the HOA, but they haven’t been much help. Any thoughts on what I can do?

[claireh10]

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Ugh, that sounds frustrating. Have you documented the incidents? It might be helpful to have a record of the disturbances. Also, check your local laws; sometimes there are noise ordinances or parking regulations that could come into play.

[melcenaryx]

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Good point! I’ve started keeping a log of incidents, but I’ll definitely look into local regulations. In the meantime, any advice on dealing with the neighbor directly without escalating the situation?

[scottstots]

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Approach them calmly and try to express your concerns without being confrontational. Sometimes people aren’t aware of how their actions impact others. If that doesn’t work, consider mediation services—they can help facilitate a conversation.

[melcenaryx]

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I appreciate the advice. I’ll give the direct approach another shot, and if that doesn’t work, I’ll look into mediation services. Has anyone here had success with mediation in neighbor disputes?

[refinnej1989]

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Be cautious with mediation and always consult with a legal professional before signing any agreements. You don’t want to unintentionally waive your rights. Also, keep pressing the HOA—they have a responsibility to address these issues.

[melcenaryx]

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Thank you for the heads up! I’ll definitely be careful with mediation, and I’ll keep pushing the HOA to take action. It’s just frustrating when they seem unresponsive.

[aidamartinsen]

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I feel your pain. HOAs can be tricky. Maybe try attending an HOA meeting and voicing your concerns directly? Sometimes they respond better when faced with a group of concerned homeowners.

[melcenaryx]

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That’s a great suggestion! I’ll look into the next HOA meeting and see if I can bring up the issue there. Thanks for the support, everyone! If anyone has more advice, please keep it coming.

[Charles Wright]

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Rude or violating the conditions of the documents? The HOA is not responsible for rudeness, they are responsible if the rude person is violating any portions of you CCR’s
Explain how this person is being offensive either to you or the HOA CCR’s.

[melcenaryx]

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I’m pretty sure they’re violating some of the rules, too. Loud music at night is in clear violation of our noise rules, but the HOA doesn’t do anything about it. They block my driveway, usually in the morning which makes me late to work. It’s not a clear violation of the rules, but parking has to be regulated by the HOA, am I right? As for the not-so-nice encounters, I admit, that’s not covered by the HOA. But it sure doesn’t help me warm up to my neighbor.

[HayleyOW]

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Get a copy of your bylaws and look through the rules – if they are breaking them, cite which ones that to the HOA in a written email with documentation of the incident, for example a photo with time/date of the violation. Remember, the HOA doesn’t violate people for “being rude” and they are not responsible to handle neighborly disputes – they aren’t the cops or batman – they are people who live in your community and volunteers. If your bylaws have a noise rule there may be a time associated with it. Is your neighbor playing music past that time? if not, thats not a violation. There may also be a noise ordinance in your town so you could call the police if that is being broken and they will respond – thats usually quicker and more efficient than waiting for the HOA to send them a violation letter. In regards to blocking your driveway, if your roads are public the HOA can not violate people for parking on them – you need to call the police about that as well.

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